When we decided to get married (only a month after we started dating), we agreed never to use the “D” word – divorce. We agreed to always work toward an excellent relationship and be willing to listen, learn, grow, and serve. We’ve not been perfect – especially me – but that pact has helped us move through small and large disagreements and realize that few things are as important as a deepening relationship.

Communication is the other key – always make time for it. Julie and I take walks whenever we can. My parents told me that walks were the secret to their 50 year marriage. I now understand – they give you time to catch up on things without kids around, and while doing something positive together. Being outside is a great help as well.

If you want a relationship that is not just good – but great – keep the long-term goal in mind constantly. Be willing to look out for your partner and encourage them to grow, spend time with those they care about, and do things together. As you work to meet his/her needs first, your needs will be met as well.